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Let’s talk about something that gets a lot of praise… but not always for the right reasons. You know the one:"Your child is so well-behaved!”"She’s so quiet and polite.""He’s no trouble at all." And don’t get me wrong - I get why people say it. We’ve been taught that “good behaviour” is the gold standard. That sitting still, following rules, and keeping quiet is the ultimate parenting goal. That if our child is calm and compliant, we must be …

You Can’t See It, But It’s There This week is Invisible Disabilities Week, and I wanted to take a moment to shine a light on something that doesn’t always look like it needs one. Because in my family, we live with invisible disabilities every single day. Autism. ADHD. OCD. Anxiety. Depression. They are as real as any broken leg or hearing aid - but unlike a cast or a cane, you don’t always see them. And that’s exactly the problem. People often assume that because a …

Each October, Australia shines a spotlight on carers - those quiet heroes who give without asking much back. National Carers Week reminds us there are over 3 million Australians providing unpaid care. But what about the carer who also needs care? The neurodivergent parent of neurodivergent children? That’s my world. And in this week of recognition, I want to share what it’s like - messy, exhausting, heartbreaking - and also fiercely loving. The weight of dual responsibility As a neur …

Because sometimes it's not just the kids falling apart... Let’s be honest - co-regulation sounds beautiful in theory. You're calm, they're calm. You model breathing, they mirror it. You offer a soft, steady presence that helps their nervous system settle. But what happens when you’re not calm? When you’re running on two hours sleep, your brain’s firing in twelve directions, you forgot about the appointment in a hour, and your child is mid-meltdown? Welcome to the real wor …

If you've ever felt completely drained just from doing everyday things - like getting dressed, making breakfast, or answering a few emails - you might already understand The Spoon Theory... even if you didn’t know it had a name. And if you're raising a neurodivergent child or you are neurodivergent yourself, this simple metaphor might help explain why some days feel impossibly hard, even when nothing dramatic has happened. Let’s break it down - gently, honestly, and with zero judgeme …

If you’ve ever seen a child flap their hands, rock back and forth, hum under their breath, or spin in circles until they fall over giggling - you’ve witnessed stimming. And if your first thought was, “That looks a bit odd…” - you’re not alone. But let’s unpack that, because stimming isn’t weird, wrong, or something to be fixed. As a mum of three neurodivergent kids, I’ve come to understand stimming as a beautiful, important part of how some …

If you’re raising a sensory seeker, you already know your house is basically a jungle gym, your kid is a walking science experiment, and public outings are always an adventure. Sensory seekers are full of energy, curiosity, and wild ideas (that usually involve mess, movement, or noise). They don’t just experience the world - they devour it, touch it, jump on it, spin around in it, and occasionally… lick it. So here’s a light-hearted list of things only we truly understan …

Does your child love to spin until they fall over? Do they have a sixth sense for noise before you’ve even heard it? Welcome to the enchanted world of Sensory Hogwarts, where everyone is welcome - fidgeters, seekers, avoiders, and all! Take this magical (and very unofficial) quiz to sort your little witch or wizard into their Sensory House — no Sorting Hat required. Question 1: When it’s time to focus, your child... Is bouncing off the walls like they’ve had a double esp …

If your child screamed, cried, or shut down every morning before school - would you call that refusal? Because for more and more kids, it’s not about won’t go. It’s about can’t. I live this - every single day - as a mum of three neurodivergent “school can’t” kids. My eldest son has finally “finished” his education through the public mainstream system. And I use quotation marks very deliberately there. He completed two subjects, unscored, in Y …

As a neurodivergent mum of three autistic teens, I’ve spent a lot of time trying to bridge the gap between how my kids experience the world and how the world expects them to be. And somewhere along that journey, I came across the concept of the Double Empathy Problem and honestly, it helped everything make a little more sense. It gave me language for something I’d felt for years but couldn’t quite explain. So today, I want to gently unpack it with you, because it’s a conc …